Discussion in Skype [ in English ]

Since I didn't have a chance to share my point of view on the topic due to unstable internet connection I would like to present it here.

I remember when I first read about the bystander's effect, I was shocked. Though such situations do not happen often.

Then I also read about what kind of people usually help others in potentially dangerous situations that includes violence and stuff like that. What kind of people are Good Samaritans? It appears that the Good Samaritans usually have more experience in coping with difficult situations than people who do not do anything. They often have more police, medical, or lifesaving training. And often they do something not because they have pity, or sympathy, or other nice feelings to a victim, but because they know what should be done and how it should be done, and because they feel that they are strong and capable enough to deal with the situation. So their primary motivation is not humanitarian feelings but a sense of their competence and responsibility.

Though I understand that to call a police not much training or skills needed.

http://www.buzzle.com/articles/how-to-rebu...friendship.html

How to Rebuild a Broken Friendship


On Sunday, 06.11 at 9 pm Moscow Time.

Remember, Russia don't use "winter time" more. So be caucious about Moscow time!
PS I'll be

сегодня отключил интернет, в это воскресение не смогу

Next discussion is on Sunday, 13.11 at 9pm.

The topic is Positive Thinking Tips

http://www.buzzle.com/articles/positive-thinking-tips.html

As I missed the last conversation, I would like to write down my opinion on the topic.
A similar topic (about friendship) was brought up in the main forum. So I will probably repeat myself.

I believe that people become friends when they do something together. It can be a hobby - as the article suggests, - or a joint project, or something that is easier and more enjoyable done together.

I am going to reminisce about where I found friends.
I found a lot of new friends when I joined the Tourism club in my University. We met for a training twice a week, and besides we spent our student vacations going on trips around Belarus, to Karelia, Turkmenistan, Crimea, Ukraine and Caucasus.
I met my husband on a tourist trip.
Then I started to do sport orienteering and met a lot of friends there too.
When my son was a baby, we became friends with another girl who lived near by and also had a little son. I wrote about it in the other topic on forum. We took walks with our children together.
A lot of my friends on Facebook, Odnoklassniki, and VKontakte are from the theater where I volunteer, from the college where I took classes, and also from the Syntone and Mosaic forums - though I never met some of them in person.

There is a proverb that goes like this: when there's a will there's a way. A similar proverb - though not a corollary of the previous one - says: when there's a 'why' there's a 'how'.

Next Sunday, 20.11 at 9 pm.

How to Stop Worrying
http://www.buzzle.com/articles/how-to-stop-worrying.html

I would like to jot down a couple of words on the topic 'How to stop worrying' since I missed the last meeting. Hope to talk to everyone on Skype next time!



Many people worry about something from time to time. It is OK if it does not happen too often and helps people to understand what is precious to them.

I have several ways to deal with worrying.
One of them is to continue doing what I was doing, ignoring my worrying. Or better yet, not ignoring but accepting my worries. In some situations I say to myself:
OK, I'm worried. So what? I am still going to do this and that.
Or:
I will try to do this and see what will happen.
Sometimes it is not worth trying to fight this feeling of worrying. It is better to accept it.

Another way to deal with it is to stop worrying about things that are not important. It makes life so much easier.

There is a catch here though. Some things are not important for me, but are important for other people. If it is not too difficult for me, and I can do it, why not do it?

Yet another way to stop worrying is to talk to a wise person about things. It helps to express emotions outward, understand the situation better, and get an opinion from another point of view.

Also, sometimes it helps me just to do some physical exercises or to turn some good music on to feel better.

Sunday, 9 pm Moscow Time

Ice Breaker Questions for Adults
http://www.buzzle.com/articles/ice-breaker...for-adults.html

About last Sunday topic. "Ice Breaker Questions for Adults"

I find it easier to start a conversation saying something about a situation where that conversation takes place. For example, if we are in a room(or building), I can say something about that room or building. Or I can say something about my way to that place, and how and why I got there.

If I meet a person in my house - for example my son's friend, - I usually ask that person about things. If I never met him or her, I still know something about that person, and can ask about it.
It's easier for me to start a conversation than to continue it.

Sometimes people I meet start a conversation. In that case I can just reply to what they are saying, and it's less complicated.
In any case I try not to rely completely on other person talking to me, but also think of some ways to continue a discussion.

Tomorrow on Sunday, 11.12 , at 9 pm Moscow Time.

The topic is Psychology of Impulse Shopping

http://www.buzzle.com/articles/psychology-...e-shopping.html

Next Sunday, 18.12 at 8 pm.

Procrastination
http://www.sas.calpoly.edu/asc/ssl/procrastination.html

Monday, 26.12 at 8.30pm
Types of Social Influence
http://www.buzzle.com/articles/types-of-so...-influence.html

Сообщение отредактировал(а) Аленький Цветочек - 24.12.2011 - 17:42

On 'Psychology of Impulse Shopping' that I missed.

I agree with the author of the article on the following idea.

Retailers and sales people make everything possible to make their products attractive to the customers.
I think it's a good idea to know about the tricks that retailers use to lure the customers to buy something. First of all it can help a customer to decide whether he/she needs the product and buy only what he/she needs. And second, it can help a customer to appreciate all the effort that the sales people make to attract them.

A friend of mine told me a story once. She and her other friend, being students and having no spare money, often went to a particular store that they liked - not to buy anything, but just to look and feel good about such beautiful things they saw in the store. They enjoyed it very much.

Also, I think that when people know exactly what they need, they are less likely to buy something unnecessary.
Depending on the season of a year, or a life period, we could be attracted to completely different products. It could be kids' clothes and toys at some point, home appliances at another, and so on.

To my regret, I can't. Now I use copmuter in my father's flat, so on Monday I'll miss